I’m not talking about medical scrubs here. So what is a scrub you ask?
Time for a 90s flashback!
In other words, scrubs are the guys at the bottom of the barrel. The guys that the Tumblr Hive Mind think about when they talk about catcalling, harassment, and “nice guy syndrome.” The guys who won’t take a hint and back off. It’s one thing to be nice. It’s one thing to let your armor down for a guy who really wants to make an effort. But it’s another thing when a guy texts you the day after you meet and asks why you didn’t respond right away. It’s another thing when a guy acts passive-aggressive or outright aggressive when you try to take things slow. The armor you have is there for a reason.
I dealt with my fair share of scrubs ever since middle school. Usually, they were the guys who would flirt with me in class. Their antics irritated me to no end. The worst part was that it didn’t seem like there were any good guys around to take my defense or tell me that not all guys were like that. For the longest time, I believed that I wasn’t pretty because the only guys I attracted were immature jerks.
Ladies, don’t ever believe that you’re not beautiful just because a construction worker wolf-whistles at you or some guy at a bar wants to put his hand up your skirt. Don’t settle for attention from guys like that. As hard as it is to believe, there are genuinely good, single guys out there. And yes, they are straight.
But your value doesn’t lie in any guy. It doesn’t even lie in the man you end up marrying. You are valuable and precious and wonderful in God’s eyes as you are. The best way to handle scrubs is knowing what you are worth. You are worth dying on the Cross for. You are worthy of having the best guy that God created for you. There will be guys out there who will send mixed messages and try to take their insecurities out on you. Don’t let them. Know that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. The scrubs you meet aren’t worthy of your kindness, your time, and any effort you take on being “nice” for the sake of being the better person. There is such a thing as excess of virtue.
Know your limits. Be polite, but get out of a bad situation as quickly as possible. Learn some self-defense classes. Trust your gut when you feel like something bad is going on. Don’t accept every guy who sends you a friend request on Facebook. Don’t follow back every guy on Twitter and Instagram. And if you’re online-dating, make sure you meet the guy in person and bring a friend with you in case things get ugly. And most of all, don’t let their ugliness get to you.
Pray for your future husband, whether it be an earthly one or a heavenly one. It’s hard to believe that there is a genuinely wonderful man out there waiting for us. But then again, many people have an issue with believing in a Divine Creator and His only begotten Son. If you can believe in God and that God loves you, you can believe that He will lead you to your future husband.
And to all the boys out there who think they can just want, take, and have any girl: